I write many storylines dealing with the BDSM lifestyle. I have done a ton of research into this lifestyle. I can’t state strong enough that this lifestyle is not to be entered into lightly. Please do your own research if you are curious about this lifestyle.
Here are a few books to start you on your research.
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction- written by Jay Wiseman
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice (M/s Studies Books)
These are just a few books to start with. There are also a lot of websites dedicated to this lifestyle.
One thing to remember when you are reading my books that these books are works of fiction. Some of the practices in them may cause serious injury if not done properly and therefore should not be attempted without proper training.